How to Truly Have Happy Holidays
The holidays can be a time of crazy. between family coming and going, traveling yourself, kids
school parties and performances, Nutcracker recitals, Parades, friend gatherings, company parties, gifts to buy, the Elf to move….it’s enough to make any parent lose their mind. But what if I told you, you could do all of that and have fun while you do it? And all it took was one simple mindset shift to make it happen?
It’s easy to just put your head down and “get through” until you push yourself to the brink of
exhaustion every night, just to wake up the next morning and do it all over again, causing us to burnout before the actual Holidays is even here. Here are 3 tips to help you have the energy to not just get through to New Years, but to fully thrive!
It’s OK to say no. It’s OK to miss the party, or even leave early. Ask yourself if the thing you are
about to do excites you. Do you feel heavy? Or do you feel light? If you were to say no, do you
feel the world lift off your shoulders, or would it make you sad to miss? Our body is always
telling us what is best for us, we just need to listen. So while some things we do need to do (like
showing up for the company party), is it an option to stay for an hour and leave early? Or when
that friend says “Potluck”, can you bring store bought cookies instead of homemaking them?
Delegate. What can you delegate out? Can your spouse get the gifts for Aunt Margie and cousin Jim? Are the kids old enough to decorate some things on their own? Can you hire a house
cleaner to tidy up if you’re hosting? Decide what your time is worth and delegate out what you
can. (And for the control freaks, yes there absolutely are things that can be delegated out!) By
allowing others to help check things off your list, you will have more time for the things that are
most important, and that you enjoy the most.
Sleep. Allow yourself to rest. Go to bed early. Take a nap Sunday Afternoon. Sleep in on the
weekend. You will be much more productive and happy the more rested you are. This is
probably the most simple sounding of the 3 tips, but it’s the one I find my clients are forgetting
about the most. So put the to do list and the wrapping paper down, and go to bed. It will all get
done. I promise. If you’re like me and your brain just doesn’t want to stop thinking at bedtime,
try a meditation app or video. There are a ton in the app store, and even more on YouTube.
There are even some that will help you manifest things you want (like money or a relationship)
while they relax you and help you drift off to a deep, healing sleep. So do a little search, try
different ones every night and enjoy some quality rest!
The main point is this – shifting your mindset from “have to” to “get to” is how we can enjoy the
Holidays even through the madness. If anything truly feels like a “have to” and cannot be shifted to a “get to”, then that is what you delegate out, say no to, or put down and go to bed. Give it a try and you may be surprised how much better you feel this year!
Sharla Mandere is CEO of Sharla Mandere Coaching. She lives in san Diego with her husband and 2 daughters and when she isn’t helping women get Out of their Funk, she can be found driving an SUV full of Girl Scouts and Ballerina Hip Hop dancers, or choreographing 90 middle schoolers in Musical Theatre productions. Follow her on Social Media for Self care and exercise tips at www.radiantsunrisewellness.com.
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